Reflections

I am a creature of pack nature who is also an introvert. This makes it very difficult for me. I am happiest when left to my own devices, but I need others around me to feel comfortable. I work well in places where there are lots of people leaving me alone to work.

And I live best with others. I have tried living on my own begore and was miserable. So miserable that I spent more time hanging with friends and sleeping on sofas than at my own place. I should have saved money and just had a storage unit and couch surfed.

I also tried living with one other person but if I was home by myself and they were at work, it was the same issue. Double issue if I was alone at night. So I was always up at night and asleep during the day to ease the stress. But it didn't get rid of it.

My first relief came when I had several roommates. My parents were against it but I was finally in a happy little nest. Everyone had different schedules so someone was always around when I was. I never got bothered because everyone was doing their own thing. I had found bliss.

Fast forward to today. I am married. We own a mortgage on a condo. Just a 2 bedroom thing. But there are four of us here. Two couples. One set to each bedroom. And again I am happy. Everyone does their thing, but we also do some meals and double dates together. I am never alone. I am happy in my nest.

Some people are happy in a nest of one. Others in a nest of specific members (spouse and children). I would be happy in a house of 30 friends and family just doing their thing and maybe sharing a few meals and some event nights (movie night, game night, ect)

It is a good life, when you find your nest. It is something worth holding on to.